tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2137356124184306084.post6373935516325544599..comments2023-11-05T02:39:52.642-08:00Comments on Dr Sock Writes Here: A Place to Call HomeDr Sock http://www.blogger.com/profile/13378594360241846301noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2137356124184306084.post-91956199904630616252017-01-07T23:43:12.921-08:002017-01-07T23:43:12.921-08:00Donna, I so much enjoyed our coffee get-togethers ...Donna, I so much enjoyed our coffee get-togethers when we visited the Island recently. It is nice when a blog relationship flourishes and grows into a real life connection. Wherever we settle in the end, I will certainly be on the Island on a regular basis, and I hope to keep in touch with you. Dr Sock https://www.blogger.com/profile/13378594360241846301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2137356124184306084.post-25280992079169240492017-01-07T16:56:27.557-08:002017-01-07T16:56:27.557-08:00Hi, Jude - I believe that you already know my (par...Hi, Jude - I believe that you already know my (partly biased) point-of-view. That aside, I do completely agree with Carole on this issue, i.e. "Don't be so hard on yourself...changing your mind IS always an option!" Good luck with your decision making and let me know if there is anything that I can do to help.retirementreflectionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03256842249783275416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2137356124184306084.post-29321833903045712722017-01-07T09:52:01.609-08:002017-01-07T09:52:01.609-08:00Vicki, I have adapted your decision matrix and and...Vicki, I have adapted your decision matrix and and value rankings and used them. That process helped us narrow down our choices from "anywhere in BC" to four possible locations. Rob and I each completed the matrix and rankings separately. My top choice was his last choice, and his top choice was my third choice. However, our scores were not far apart, and when we summed them, the top three choices received nearly identical scores. Also, we both had the same second choice, which came out as the top choice when we summed our scores. It was definitely a useful process. But ultimately we still don't have a decision because choosing to live near one set of family and friends means choosing not to live near another set of family and friends. Unfortunately, the two general geographical areas that we are considering are 1000 miles apart, so although we can still visit, it would be a 1-2 day drive. So I'm still spinning in circles on this decision. And to top it off, there are several other small towns in BC that we could see ourselves living in that didn't make the list because they are not near family or friends. But when we drive through them, we look at each other and say, "ooh, wouldn't this be a great place to live!"Dr Sock https://www.blogger.com/profile/13378594360241846301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2137356124184306084.post-83387702636927736492017-01-07T09:27:10.704-08:002017-01-07T09:27:10.704-08:00Carole, you have zeroed in on the the most importa...Carole, you have zeroed in on the the most important factors for us. We will probably end up in either the southwest corner of BC or in the northwest corner of BC as we have friends and family in both locations. My kids and grandkids, some friends and 1 brother are in the southwest, and my Mom, 2 brothers, Rob's kids, and many longtime friends are in the northwest. Better health care in the south; more affordable housing in the north. Cold winters in the north; rainy winters in the south. Arg!Dr Sock https://www.blogger.com/profile/13378594360241846301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2137356124184306084.post-49228214761326693042017-01-07T07:53:45.093-08:002017-01-07T07:53:45.093-08:00SO interesting! Carole and I must live very close ...SO interesting! Carole and I must live very close to each other as I live between Central and Western NY. As someone who spent many years working on my doctorate (in decision analysis) - you are definitely right about "optimizing" vs. "satisificing". You are trying to optimize and make the perfect decision and Rob is satisficing by trying to choose anyplace that would be "good enough". Optimizing can certainly get you stuck. In our qualitative research courses we learned out to look at what others say/write to search for themes and clues as to where they are getting stuck. You wrote "I could be comfortable living in many different places. I have moved before, and I can move again. It will be just fine." That really aligns with Rob too. Maybe clarifying your end goals (such as Carol listed above) and ranking them based on importance would help? Just a thought. You could compare your options then. But based on what I've read, you will likely be happy wherever you go. Just as you said. Vickinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2137356124184306084.post-74374718606968656592017-01-07T04:41:44.303-08:002017-01-07T04:41:44.303-08:00IT's a challenge, trying to pick your "fo...IT's a challenge, trying to pick your "forever" home. We attempted to do that almost 12 years ago. In retrospect, I would say that in the end what mattered most was:<br />1) Close to friends and family<br />2) Close to adequate health care services<br />3) An area where there is plenty to do, both indoors and outdoors<br /><br />We spend the winters in Florida so as to escape the bitter cold and snow. The rest of the year we live in Central New York, which meets all of the other requirements on our list.<br /><br />Don't be to hard on yourself as you struggle with this issue. It is a moving target, and fortunately changing your mind is always an option! Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.com